You have just been served divorce papers. Panic begins to set in. You feel sick to your stomach. Your mind is racing a mile a minute, with questions about what you are going to do. You can’t sleep, eat and feel as though you are living someone else’s life. In addition, you are afraid of the impact this is going to have on your kids and you are enraged this is happening.
Research shows that you are not alone in your panic. According to a recent report in The Huffington Post, “Divorce causes chronic stress because it is usually an ongoing event,” says stress expert Kathleen Hall. So instead of giving off adrenaline — the chemical our body secretes during times of acute stress — the body will continuously release the stress hormone cortisol.
The fear of the unknown occurrences during the divorce is difficult for most people to manage. The act of divorce symbolizes change that is uncertain. Divorce is one of these changes that presents unpredictability, insecurity and fear of the further. No one should question the fact that you are scared. It is part of the process.
Rome was not built in a day. Divorce is not resolved within a week. Take time to figure out every move so you make the best decisions.
Dr. Sue Cornbluth is a nationally recognized parenting expert in high conflict parenting situations. She is a regular mental health contributor for an array of networks and television shows such as NBC, FOX and CBS. Dr. Sue has also contributed to several national publications. Her new best-selling book, Building Self Esteem in Children and Teens Who Are Adopted or Fostered is available now. To find out more about her work, please visit Dr. Sue’s website.