Parents, do you know your kids often hide their intense feelings about your divorce? Kids of divorce may seem emotionally stable on the outside, but inside they are probably struggling.
Sometimes as parents we are so busy with our own issues or daily lives that we are not always vigilant of how our kids are feeling. This happens to all parents from time to time. It is important to remind ourselves that we do need to check in with our children even when we believe they are doing well.
Kids’ feelings about divorce are complicated. They have so many emotions circulating through their minds. At first kids tend to feel a lot of anger towards their parents for splitting up and do not know where they belong. In addition, throughout there day kids will probably have several mood swings. They usually are consumed with obsessive thoughts about where they will live and who will take care of them. According to some kids, they will also experience the following symptoms:
How can parents help their kids move through the early stages of divorce? It begins with recognizing that their children will be emotionally affected by the divorce.
Dr. Sue Cornbluth is a nationally recognized parenting expert in high conflict parenting situations. She is a regular mental health contributor for an array of networks and television shows such as NBC, FOX and CBS. Dr. Sue has also contributed to several national publications. Her new best-selling book,Building Self Esteem in Children and Teens Who Are Adopted or Fostered is available now. To find out more about her work, please visit Dr. Sue’s website.