Encourage Your Family To Move Beyond Trauma
Where should parents turn for help when their children are emotionally suffering? The answer lies in “Hope.” Hopeful parenting is believing that you possess the resiliency, inner strength and tools to move your family beyond emotional pain. If your family is suffering from emotional pain, you can become their catalyst for change by taking action. This can include seeking out professional services and not giving up hope that things will change.
Beginning your process of overcoming traumatic experiences that affect your family begins with “Hope.” Hopeful parenting helps you to believe that things will improve. It encourages you to move beyond despair and towards healing. Hope is your key to emotional freedom.
Healing takes time and it starts with a work ethic. It would be great if parents could just magically take away their children’s pain. We know as parents that is never the case. It takes dedication, determination, unconditional love and hope that things will improve. Hope is the constant factor that helps parents move their children through high conflict situations.
Help your traumatized children keep a broad context and keep a long-term perspective when it comes to helping them move through a traumatic situation. Help them to see that there is a future beyond their pain and current situation by instilling that in spite of what happened to them, they can move from being a victim to a survivor. You will be amazed how having a positive, optimistic outlook can change your children’s perspective on their future.
Building hope for your child begins with showing empathy for their situation. Your child does not need your pity; they need your compassion. Empathy allows you to see your children’s experience through their eyes and provides them with the comfort they need. Empathy is your action tool for “Hopeful Parenting.”
Begin Your “Hopeful Parenting” Process
- Connect With Your Child’s Emotions
Acknowledge your child’s fear, sadness and helplessness. Validate their feelings. Do not dismiss their feelings because when you do they feel you are dismissing them.
Assure yourself and your child that traumatic circumstances do not define everything about ourselves. Children and teens are extremely resilient. Encourage them to see that they are more than what they experienced.
- Encourage Self-Belief
When a child becomes a survivor of their circumstances they begin to feel proud and live in the here and now. They begin to feel hope that their life can be more than they believed it could be. They look towards the future.
Make “Hopeful Parenting” a part of your family’s healing process. When you have hope, anything is possible!
Answer The Following Questions With
A Yes Or No Response
- I am hopeful my current situation will improve.
- I recognize that healing is going to take some time.
- I believe I have the power to create positive change in my traumatic situation.
- I want to put the work into improving my situation.
- I believe things will improve over time.
- I believe I have some control over my situation.
- I believe I can learn the skills to overcome my traumatic situation.
- I have the strength within myself to fight through my pain.
- I have the courage to heal.
- I see myself as a survivor, not a victim.
- I will not let setbacks stop me from forging ahead.
- I believe things will get better!
If you answered “Yes” to statements 1 through 12, then you appear to be in a healthy place! It’s time to start your journey towards moving through and beyond your traumatic situation.