Have The Courage To Help Your Child
Parents, you are a critical part of helping your children move through traumatic moments and situations. After all, we need to be our children’s “best role models” in order to help them through times of fear and uncertainty.
Children look to their parents to rescue them when they are in emotional pain. This puts a great deal of pressure on you as a parent, but it does not have to be that difficult. The secret is to empower yourself with the tools needed to empower your children to move through the traumatic situation. This can be accomplished through learning how to prepare yourself emotionally in order to assist your child’s healing process.
Give Yourself The Strength To Start Healing
- Relinquish Your Self-Blame
Research shows that when a person is able to relinquish self-blame, they are able to move forward and become successful. When it comes to being a parent of a child that has experienced trauma, parents often will say, “I should have been able to protect my child.” The truth is that we cannot protect our children from everything in life because we simply cannot be physically present all of the time. It is extremely important that you relinquish your self-blame for your child’s traumatic experience to free and empower yourself to be a guide to your child’s healing process.
- Address Your Own Fears
If you are struggling with your own fears about what your child is experiencing, it is time to seek out help to put your fears in a place where they are not affecting your ability to be strong for your children. It is perfectly normal to be afraid for your child, but it is not okay to project your anxiety onto them. Seek out a therapist or a parenting coach to address your own fears, feelings and concerns about your ability to parent your child through their traumatic situation.
- Educate Yourself
No parent has all the answers to their children’s needs. When trauma is involved it is even a more difficult task. This year in a New York Times article, parents stated that they had significant safety concerns about their children attending school this year, but did not know how to talk to them about it. It is important that parents find their “Voice” to help their children find their “Voice” when it comes to traumatic situations. If your child has suffered abuse, divorce, witnessing a traumatic event, bullying etc., it is extremely important that you learn how to create a safe environment for them to share their feelings with you. You can accomplish this by educating yourself with the proper tools and strategies needed for talking to and comforting your children.